Suzanne Lyons’ musings on taking charge of your career.
1) WHO’S THE AUTHORITY?
Who said that’s the way it is? Who’s in charge here? The answer whether you like it or not, is YOU. You are the one living the reality that you’ve created. Not your Mom, not your boss, not the industry, not the government. It’s a great inquiry to take on. Possibly one you’ve never ever thought about before today.
2) BELIEFS ARE ONLY HABITUAL THOUGHTS
Many people think their beliefs are real… carved in stone, real. It sounds crazy, but true. And as you know, habits become reality soon crystallizing to the point where it really really is our reality… or so we think. Perception is not reality… perception is just perception. We get unduly locked in our thought processes.
3) “THE TRUTH” CAN KEEP YOU STUCK
The scary thing is that when we think that what we think is true, it’s sort of like having our foot nailed to the floor. It becomes our permission slip to get ourselves off the hook. We feel justified in blaming someone or something outside ourselves, leaving us powerless. It’s sort of like dancing to a tune that isn’t even playing. And whether we realize it or not, it takes its toll… physically, emotionally and spiritually. We get to play it safe by ‘being stuck’. But unfulfilled. Create your own truth. Is your mindset fixed or always evolving?
4) BEING RIGHT… IS IT WORTH IT?
Just think about this one for a minute. For most of us, we’d rather be right, than have relationships! We’ll go to war (literally) to be right. The damage here is that we tend to kill off and alienate a ton of people just to be right. We spend countless hours canvassing others, collecting evidence to validate just how very right we are. “Isn’t my boss a terrible person?” “It’s getting harder and harder to find a job.” “Showrunners only hire their friends.” “Everyone’s out to steal my ideas.” Is this mindset worth it?
5) THE COST
If you started to question #4 even for a second, read on. If you want to shift from someone who says “that’s just the way it is” to someone who’s fully in control, fully responsible you have only to look at the cost. If you’ve convinced yourself you’re unempowered, you’re alienating people, you’re jeopardizing your self-expression, aliveness, potential, possibility and you’re missing out on joy, love and fun.
6) CHOICE IS FREEDOM
Are you making choices based on and in support of our “that’s just the way it is” belief. What you think is true further reinforces the foundation on which you built the whole thing to begin with. There is no choice… no freedom standing there. You can’t use your old beliefs to guide your present actions. Changing the way you think of something (or someone) transforms and expands your world giving you the ultimate freedom of choice.
7) CREATING REALITY
You all need to realize that we get to say what’s so. You have an internal experience of the words you speak and the thoughts you’re thinking and thoughts and words have power. YOU get to say… YOU get to create your reality. YOU get to write your story the way you want it to unfold.
8) HAVE A ‘COME AS YOU WANT TO BE’ PARTY
In his book, “The Success Principles,” Jack Canfield talks about a party he attended that was literally life changing. The party was called ‘come as you will be in 5 years.’ It was all about envisioning where you would like to be 5 years into the future. He said they “were to dress the part, talk the part and bring any props that demonstrated that their dreams had already come true.” Now that’s my kind of party! Call your friends and plan it, now! It’s called visualization.
9) A NEW PLACE TO STAND
If everything that I’m saying is sounding a little too familiar maybe it’s time for a personal paradigm shift. If your conversation is not empowering you, make up a new one. It’s not like there’s any truth to the first one anyway. Trust your intrusion 100% of the time and choose to stand there. I recently attended an amazing educational health week in Malibu and met acclaimed doctor and scientist Barry Morguelan. He went so far as to say that all human suffering stems from the gap between who we think we are and who we really are… our perception versus our potential.
10) TAKING FULL RESPONSIBILITY
I mean FULL responsibility. 10% responsibility… 100% of the time. I know, that hurt. Too bad. It’s time. Be fully and totally responsible for your reality, creating your reality and what you have to say about it. I promise you miracles!
If you don’t like your current reality, create a new one.